Victims Victimized!?
To the wives and mothers that get caught up in this Social Service Tsunami.
I get upset when I hear of women coming for "voluntary" help, then the 90 days turns into a couple of years. I know of a mother who was being abused along with her children. Since she didn't protect them, she was charged with Neglect, and put into the Colorado trails System. This is the same system as pedophiles. When this happened she had to change her college major. She was studying for the last 3 years to be a teacher. This is such an insult.
1. When we were involved in Social Services, I was labeled a "victim" by Jefferson County Human Services, Lakewood Police Department, GAL Gina Bischoff and Officer Mike Burgess of the Jefferson County Sheriff's Department. There was no truth behind this label, but that didn't matter. That is what they called me, so according to the court system it was true. They continually told me that if I didn't say what they wanted me to, they would do this or that (mainly threatening to remove my children from my care if I didn't agree with their lie). My husband told me the whole time that I had a voice and that I didn't have to be manipulated by this system. I didn't believe him in the beginning. I thought that if I did what they said I would be able to keep my kids. I should have listened to my husband. This is the divisiveness of the system. My husband has told me and other women on numerous occasions that "Unless there is something wrong with a man, no matter is going on, he won't let anybody run her over".
They called me a "victim" even though no judge or counselor stated this. Every one of them said the complete opposite. The Judge said if anyone needs protecting it's Sharles from me, we laughed. Jefferson County had an agenda. Social Services claims to be advocating "in the best interest of..." This is not true. It is a business, and business is business as usual. I found it hard to believe that there was no justice for our family in the judicial system. One magistrate stood up for the truth. Magistrate Babette Norton apologized to my family on our final court date saying that "she was sorry that she didn't follow up on our case, she saw what they were doing". That this case was not about the children, but it was about my husband. The county was mad at him. She said that our family was dealt an injustice and that she has NEVER seen a father in their system like my husband."He is unlike any father we have ever had in the HISTORY of family court and you did not know what to do with him"
On our last court date Magistrate Norton said:
"You took one issue and turned it into all of this, you have issues and I have issues, you took one issue and turned it into all of this..." She started to weep again. She told the county that my husband and I were telling the truth. That day she cried in court. Magistrate Norton also said : HE is unlike any FATHER we have had in the HISTORY of family court and you didn't know what to do with him, I didn't know what to do with him!" " I didn't know this case was going to have this LEVEL of bad to it!!"
Why couldn't Magistrate Tims see the same thing? She took Magistrate Norton's case, knowing it was not hers. We found out later she was a former Jefferson County Prosecutor. Can you say "favors"? Same family, same situation, same facts.
I was threatened by the county to make sure they got the results that they wanted. So, if I was threatened, would one say I was being "victimized" by the very system supposedly protecting me? I eventually was able to see how biased they were towards men and how they must have been hurt very badly in their past to be the way that they were. After a while I felt kind of sorry for these case workers and GALS. Chery Hyink was so desperate to be right that she started to CHANGE the counselors notes. So my husband asked the counselor to come to court without telling anyone. You should've seen the caseworkers face when she saw her there. Cheryl Hyink asked "What are you doing here?" My husband had her caught in another one of her many lies.
They believe they have one or two up on parents. The difference here was they met someone who knew who they were and know how God viewed them. Sharles has never let people define him. I mean his birth mother and younger birth sister Tami Howard are still mad at him. He says "Well I grew up around angry women who were mad at men, so I knew how to handle them, it had just been awhile." He's funny like that. If you know him he's always been hard to define or stereotype.
I know how women feel in this situation. I have been there. Hopefully we can find strength together in this dark situation.
I have been there and then woke up from that nightmare thanks to Jesus, my husband and a group of real friends who believed in me.
If you need a voice or an advocate get a hold of me, this is not a personal email but for those that need help.
Contact me at:
rjohnson@vfoc.org
Contracted Counselors
County advocates should be their appropriate title. You believe you are being evaluated and given an objective view of where you are at. You are dollar signs and a contract.
If they want you to be "happy". They will medicate you. Problem solved right? Some want you to admit to the lie. Others can add more to the situation. Some "miss" what's really going on or not really care. Those whom truly care and want to "help" are quickly dismissed. Often their contracts are NOT renewed or paid at all!!
Some do whatever to keep up the perception. They OFTEN use a stereotypes because it's easier than getting to know a person.
When people are medicated,does this really solve the inner problem? Medication is needed but when its a crutch from growth, there's a problem.
When the county wants you "happy" is this really change ? Happiness is based on your happenings. If involved with Social Services would you really be happy?
It is easier for the county to give people the "same" evaluations and the same "remedies". It is less work. This can be viewed as a social mill.
"We dealt with Parker Froyd and associates in Lakewood, Colorado. We had a caseworker(Cheryl Hyink) change the counselors notes. We had the supervisor Brian Bag well write out monthly's though he NEVER sat down with me. he would add things I did not say!!
Experienced the same things ?
When confronted about a treatment plan not fitting the alleged issues, Tim Young of Jefferson county Colorado stated " This is what we do with everybody!" Do you know how much work that would be"
I said "Each case plan is suppose to be an individual plan not a stereotypical plan!" He had the case worker change nothing!
We watched as Jefferson County Human Services in Colorado has tried to do many changes. Programs and procedures cannot changes what in case workers hearts,minds or motives.
How can a parent deal with this, when it's all set up against them?"
Our director has told this county and a few others:
" I know the games you play with families lives, no matter how much you mix up the deck, I know your hand!"
It will take awhile for parents to figure out what social services is doing, when they realize it,often it's to late.
Parents:
There is more at stake than your personal issues with each other. Grow up,truly forgive and then move on. The treatment plan is made to be unattainable and about as general as possible. Whatever is going on or they think is going on, they will exploit. They will act as though they are trying to help,but this is the last thing on their mind.
When they send you to counselors for "evaluations", KNOW they are under contract. You will have these issues and probably a few extra.