Victims Victimized!?
To the wives and mothers that get caught up in this Social Service Tsunami.
I get upset when I hear of women coming for "voluntary" help, then the 90 days turns into a couple of years. I know of a mother who was being abused along with her children. Since she didn't protect them, she was charged with Neglect, and put into the Colorado trails System. This is the same system as pedophiles. When this happened she had to change her college major. She was studying for the last 3 years to be a teacher. This is such an insult.
1. When we were involved in Social Services, I was labeled a "victim" by Jefferson County Human Services, Lakewood Police Department, GAL Gina Bischoff and Officer Mike Burgess of the Jefferson County Sheriff's Department. There was no truth behind this label, but that didn't matter. That is what they called me, so according to the court system it was true. They continually told me that if I didn't say what they wanted me to, they would do this or that (mainly threatening to remove my children from my care if I didn't agree with their lie). My husband told me the whole time that I had a voice and that I didn't have to be manipulated by this system. I didn't believe him in the beginning. I thought that if I did what they said I would be able to keep my kids. I should have listened to my husband. This is the divisiveness of the system. My husband has told me and other women on numerous occassions that "Unless there is something wrong with a man, no matter is going on, he won't let anybody run her over".
They called me a "victim" even though no judge or counselor stated this. Every one of them said the complete opposite. The Judge said if anyone needs protecting it's Sharles from me, we laughed. Jefferson County had an agenda. Social Services claims to be advocating "in the best interest of..." This is not true. It is a business, and business is business as usual. I found it hard to believe that there was no justice for our family in the judicial system. One magistrate stood up for the truth. Magistrate Babette Norton apologized to my family on our final court date saying that "she was sorry that she didn't follow up on our case, she saw what they were doing". That this case was not about the children, but it was about my husband. The county was mad at him. She said that our family was dealt an injustice and that she has NEVER seen a father in their system like my husband."He is unlike any father we have ever had in the HISTORY of family court and you did not know what to do with him"
"You took one issue and turned it into all of this, you have issues and I have issues, you took one issue and turned it into all of this..." She started to weep again. She told the county that my husband and I were telling the truth. That day she cried in court. Why couldn't Magistrate Tims see the same thing? She took Magistrate Norton's case, knowing it was not hers. We found out later she was a former Jefferson County Prosecutor. Can you say "favor"? Same family, same situation, same facts.
I was threatened by the county to make sure they got the results that they wanted. So, if I was threatened, would one say I was being "victimized" by the very system supposedly protecting me? I eventually was able to see how biased they were towards men and how they must have been hurt very badly in their past to be the way that they were. After a while I felt kind of sorry for these case workers and GALS. Chery Hyink was so desperate to be right that she started to CHANGE the counselors notes. So my husband asked the counselor to come to court without telling anyone. You should've seen the caseworkers face when she saw her there. Cheryl asked "What are you doing here?" My husband had her caught in her lies.
They believe they have one or two up on parents. The difference here was they met someone who knew who they were and know how God viewed them. Sharles has never let people define him. If you know him he's always been this way.
I know how women feel in this situation. I have been there. Hopefully we can find strength together in this dark situation. Jesus is my constant strength.
Here is an Excerpt from when I addressed a human service worker
Tim Young Jefferson County Colorado Human Service Case worker-
You took full advantage of a hard situation to make things WORSE!!!! I had just had a miscarriage and lost my father in law and was very depressed and trying to deal with a 13 year old child that wanted to do his own thing. Then you guys got involved and told me that if I DIDN’T say what you wanted me to say about my husband, you would take my kids away from me! You weren’t there to help our family. You tried to break our family apart! You are manipulative liars that don’t care ANYTHING about the families of Jefferson County Colorado. You guys ran over me from the beginning. I thought that listening to you and following your generic plan would get us out of the system. I was SO wrong and should have fought you from the beginning when Gina told me that if I didn’t say this stuff in court that day, they would take my kids. She also said that if I didn’t say I needed a protective order against my husband she would take my kids. Where is the truth in that? Protect them from what ? She wouldn’t know the truth if it stood right in front of her face. And obviously you didn’t either. I was on the side of the truth when I FINALLY stood with my husband instead of letting you continue to victimize me and walk all over me. You guys did it the WHOLE time that our family was involved with you.
Even up to the last court date when SUDDENLY (according to Cheryl’s doctored notes) I BECAME the one that is domestically violent. You were just grasping at air trying to find some way to keep us tied up in the system. You didn’t care that you were lying. You didn’t want to find out the truth. You just wanted your results no matter who got hurt along the way. You didn’t have anyone’s best interests in mind except for your own. I think it was ironic that you said the VFOC website is a HATE WEBSITE. Look who is talking. You are the one with hate in YOUR heart. Hate and bitterness sums you up pretty well. At least my husband knew how to stand up for what he believed in (like a MAN) instead of getting run over like you.
Tim, take some advice. You could learn a LOT from my husband. You need to start wearing the pants around the county building and learn to be a MAN like my husband..... you wouldn’t know TRUTH if it stood right in front of your face. But we all learn at a different pace.
Regards,
Rebekiah Johnson
FOUNDER of THE VFOC INC
Parents: do not EVER be afraid to tell any of them how you feel. Remember to just lay out the facts not just the emotional bantar, it only gives them what they are looking for.
I know how women feel in the system. I have been there and then woke up from that nightmare thanks to Jesus, my husband and a group of real friends who believed in me.
If you need a voice or an advocate get a hold of me, this is not a personal email but for those that need help.
Jesus is the husband to those without a husband.
Contact me at:
rjohnson@vfoc.org